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牺牲与亲密关系质量的关系研究综述
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Abstract:
在亲密关系中，伴侣双方的目标和偏好可能会发生冲突，其中一方往往会为了伴侣的利益而放弃个人目标或偏好，这一行为被称为“牺牲”。因此从二元视角探讨牺牲对伴侣双方关系质量的影响是十分重要的。牺牲对于伴侣双方的关系质量是一把“双刃剑”。通过趋近–回避假说、社会交换理论等理论假说可以解释牺牲对伴侣双方关系质量产生的不同影响。本文通过从伴侣双方的二元视角梳理牺牲对关系质量的影响及相关理论假说，总结已有研究的不足，从而为未来研究提供思考方向。
In intimate relationship, the goals and preferences of one partner often conflict with those of the other partner. One of intimate partners may give up the personal goals and preferences to promote his/her partner’s welfare, then the sacrifices occur. Therefore, it is important to explore the rela-tionship between sacrifice and relationship quality from a dual perspective. Sacrifice is a “dou-ble-edged sword” for the intimate relationship quality. Theoretical hypotheses such as ap-proach-avoidance hypothesis and social exchange theory can explain the different effects of sacrifice on relationship quality. This article reviews the impact of sacrifice on relationship quality and re-lated theoretical hypotheses from the dual perspective of both partners, summarizes the short-comings of existing studies, and provides directions for future research.
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