routines and rituals are a means to organize daily life. family identity, those beliefs, values, norms, rules and expectations shared among members, are also sustained by family rituals. the creation and maintenance of routine and ritual is a central element of family life and constitutes a scaffolding that supports the development of the child. daily life it may be considered a protective factor that promotes family wellbeing, increasing the sense of security, belonging, stability, cohesion and satisfaction, and strengthening social skills in children. this study aimed to analyze the relationship between family routines and rituals, and childrens' social skills. 107 families participated in this study and were administered the "family ritual questionnaire, family routines inventory, self-perception of the parental role". the study also involves teachers in the assessment of child competence through the "strengths and difficulties questionnaire". results show that not only the absence, but also the excess of routines and the emphasis on routines could lead to dysfunction in childrens' emotion regulation.