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从依恋理论的视角探讨RRBS的前因后果
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Abstract:
浪漫依恋一直是依恋领域研究的一个重要分支。近年来，浪漫关系破裂(Romantic Relationship Breakups, RRBS)现象带来的自杀等创伤性事件引起了社会各界的广泛关注。相关研究中，RRBS的原因及影响众多，具有复杂性和多样性的特点，未能得出一致的结论，因而也无法提出针对性的有效干预手段。个体的浪漫依恋维度倾向影响着浪漫关系的方方面面，本文结合依恋理论与分手依赖模型将RRBS的原因总结为三个部分，并与其后不同个体受到的影响相照应，发现不同依恋维度的个体在经历RRBS的前因后果中仍存在分歧。未来的研究应扩大被试的范围，增加对依恋回避个体的关注，并展开纵向研究深研其发展过程，以此探讨更多干预措施。
Romantic attachment has been an important branch of research in the field of attachment. In recent years, traumatic events such as suicide brought about by the phenomenon of Romantic Relationship Breakups (RRBS) have attracted widespread attention from all sectors of society. In related studies, the causes and effects of RRBS are numerous, characterized by complexity and diversity, failing to draw consistent conclusions and thus failing to propose targeted and effective interventions. Individuals’ romantic attachment dimensional tendencies affect all aspects of romantic relationships. This paper summarizes the causes of RRBS into three parts by combining attachment theory and the breakup dependency model, and mirrors the impacts on different individuals in its aftermath, and finds that individuals with different attachment dimensions still diverge in the antecedents and consequences of experiencing RRBS. Future research should expand the scope of subjects, increase the focus on attachment-avoidant individuals, and conduct longitudinal studies to delve into the developmental process as a way to explore more interventions.
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